When we love to do something, we unconsciously see equal benefits and drawbacks (1:1) and our ability to influence expands to the solar system. In other words we do things we love simply because that is what we do. I like to write and share ideas as well as go to festivals and dance – not because I have to, want to or need to, simply because I love to. By being our best selves we are contributing to everyone which helps contribute to the evolution of the whole planet.
|Love to||1:1||Solar system||Spiritual Self Actualisation|
|Ought to (should)||6:1||Family||Survival|
On the flip side, when we feel we have to do something, we usually have a ratio of 7:1 of bad to good so we feel it is something with dire consequences if we don’t do it.
If you find yourself having to or shoulding about things in your life, spend a moment considering or writing down benefits to the activity until you see it in a more balanced way. That way, you can still do the same thing but feel much better about it.